Confessions of an Aspie Solo Female Traveller

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  1. Maria Angelova says:

    I agree, it’s better to start failing earlier (I had a similar school past like yours) because it’s harder when you’re older. But, on the other side, when you are older, you’re wiser and actually able to ponder over what happens and why – the thing you are doing in this article,

    • Teja says:

      :) That’s a good point. I think I (we?) am quite fortunate to have grown up with my head on straight, though. I know but for God’s grace, I could have become like some of my who take much, much longer to ponder honestly about these things, and because of that they create problems for others through years of working life. The ‘me’ attitude – I’ve had to fix the wake of damage of a lot of that. It is the origin of everything people hate about corporations. Corporations, those employers rich enough that they can afford to hire only the ‘best’ graduates. Think about it.

      That’s why I am concerned with the parenting trends I see here these days, where parents kind of pretend that there aren’t or shouldn’t be any ‘negative’ (=unpleasant) feelings experienced by their kids. But life has that. And they can be the most valuable experiences of all – if you know how to honour and pass through them.

  2. Cherene Saradar says:

    I always love your writing! You have so many wise quotes in here. Choosing your identity, evolving and giving your life a makeover is something I’ve had to do often and I never regret it. Being an overachiever as a child is hard to grow out of. I think I’m becoming an underachiever now!. LOL

    • Teja says:

      Yes, me too! I’m definitely still trying to find the right rhythm for this latest paradigm shift.

      If you think about it, what with our longer lifespans and faster pace of civilisation changes, the skill and courage of evolution is becoming more essential than ever before. It’s much less a pain when you do it willingly, amirite? I mean, I’ve had the (mis)fortune of being able to compare… xD

      I remember a long time ago, I told my friend departing for her medical studies in Ireland, that she be sure to choose how she changes. My meaning was that, change will be a given. Life and circumstance will do it to you. But whether you just change passively according to whatever people around you want you to be, or exert some will into it so that the change is a long-term investment to a truer you, that’s your choice.

  3. LC says:

    Definitely agree with your point – the higher you climb, the further you fall. However, as you also point out, there’s nothing wrong with failure it gives you the grounding you need to experience life.
    I love the JK Rowling quote of: “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.” Good on you for having the gumption to head to Nepal solo – I hope you have an amazing time.

  4. Aimee says:

    What a thought provoking post ? Really interesting read and thank you for being so honest about your anticipation of failure, I’m sure there’s plenty of us that can relate!

    • Teja says:

      Thank you.

      It took me many long years to be ready to write it, which was probably a good thing. Had I written about it when I was younger and still dealing with it, I would have written something very different under the pain of the wound, and it would have been much worse advice.

  5. Penny says:

    I recently watched a video that said that the reason for unhappiness (in whatever field) is unfulfilled expectations. Couldn’t help but think of it while I read your blog. We can expect things but not work towards them or expect ourselves to work towards what we want. The difference ultimately lies within ourselves.

    • Teja says:

      Someone told me a long time ago, that I was unhappy with the situation between us because of my expectations. That if I didn’t have them, I would not be unhappy. It was not easy to hear at the time, even though even then I could not dispute his logic, and the truth of it.

      Expectations you place on yourself are manageable, I think. But the trouble begins when those expectations are from – or desired from – others. We don’t always pick the right people to trust with this reliance.